I have been in religion since I was about six or seven and honestly I have never seen it be perfect, anywhere. But I do appreciate the few people, the very few people who were real Christians to me. I’m talking the ones who showed up at my door just to visit, the ones who called me just because they were thinking of me, the one named Vicky who was that service man’s wife up in WA state who took me into her home when I had no place to go after a car wreck and a new baby. She also drove me back and forth and helped me get out of the Navy. Where do you find Christians like these anymore?
There is a scripture that says “They will exclude you lest they zealously affect them”. So in other words they don’t want to change so no use fighting them….just move on to greener pastures, knowing that there will be a day of reckoning.
Keep the few friendships you had there….and move on. God gave me a church, though not perfect about ten years ago. Be thankful when you come to a church and people honestly and sincerely love you, because that rarely happens. Many are called but few are chosen. Just because your leaving does not mean you need to stop being friends with the people you met there. Know that there are a lot of tares but very few wheat in the church.
I guess also, learn from your mistakes. For me, if I were a blabber mouth and hurt people, stop doing it. Learn to me more quiet, God, please replace what used to come natural.
Concentrate on what the Lord has you to do. For me, just the task of restoring or helping to restore Israel to the faith of the Apostles *is* in itself a great enough task to take up all my energy and time….and yet I still must work, see my children, be a mom, go back to school. Everyone has talents, gifts, a way to be used in the church. Know that the church, a church that is acting properly doesn’t call you useless to the body and without gifts or knowledge. Or church that is acting properly doesn’t shun people even after they’ve asked for forgiveness, or exclude them….knowing that the Lord is the judge and everyone does wrong and needs forgiveness.
Realize that sometimes your time at a certain place is only for a time. Doesn’t mean you can’t go back 6 mos. or a year later….but do bring closure to a situation that has proved nothing but painful and not a benefit to you.